So I kind of feel relaxed regarding you. The more she grows individually, heals, learns to read people well, socializes yet knows how to detach, and becomes strategic and rational, the more sorted she'll become.

Apni growth aur skills par jitna kaam karo gy, utna hi better hota jayega. Everything is a learnable skill. Do it repeatedly, and eventually it becomes a habit, then part of your personality. Laziness is also a repeated behaviour. Change what you repeatedly do, and you will change who you become.

Center of the universe: Allah.

Healing, Quran, venting to Him, apne secrets usko batana. Recently, a husband and wife were building their new house. Raat ko doston ke saath shughal ke baad, woh apne naye ghar ki chhat dekhne upar gaya aur wahan se gir kar uska foot fracture ho gaya.

Akhirat haqeeqat hai. Plans, money, strategies, sab wahin reh gaya. So priorities clear rakho. Azan ho rahi hai toh foran namaz. Even Atif Aslam said something along these lines: the faster you respond to the azan and go for namaz, the sooner you'll find success. Jitni dair karogy, utni dair kamiyabi mein bhi hogi.

The more sorted she becomes in every aspect of her life, including relationships, the better.

And this is what I advise myself and my friends: Don't get into a relationship before you have actually healed and grown individually.

Even if things don't work out in the end, you will never lose yourself in that relationship because you have strong roots, inner healing, personal growth, and a life that is already grounded and centred in yourself.

You are the one choosing. You can recognise when someone and their values are not aligned with yours, when you're not compatible, and simply say goodbye.

No over-attachment, no losing yourself, no unnecessary heartbreak.

This is self-loyalty.