Ye sab main isliye nahi bata rahi ke aap bolo, “Oh my God, itna achha tha, main wapas chahiye , Of course, relationships mein aisi cheezein hoti hain. Aapko un cheezon ko data skills ki tarah dekhna hota hai, just to grow not chser desperate ,if it's meant to be. Toh uske liye izzat se, silently Allah par chhor do. If not, Agar cheezein unclear hain aur you were meant to be, toh aa jayenge saath. Tab tak put your energy back into yourself and grow. Aur jab the right partner aata hai, toh aapko apni value karwani aati hai.Rekha ban ke chase karne ki zaroorat nahi hai, kyun ke agar ye waqai itna achha hota, things would have worked out. Aur nahi work out kiya, toh matlab aap dono ek doosre ke liye nahi the. Isliye cheezein khud bhi work out nahi karti. It's all experiences.Agar cheezein unclear hain aur you were meant to be, toh aa jayenge saath. Tab tak put your energy back into yourself and grow. Aur jab the right partner aata hai, toh aapko apni value karwani aati hai.Jitna aap apni inner world ko grow karte ho, rich karte ho, skills learn karte ho, knowledge lete ho aur discipline se unhein maintain karte ho, repeat, repeat karte rehte ho privately in your daily habits, then woh habits banti hain, phir personality ka part ban jaati hain. Phir aap poori zindagi us skill se faida uthate ho aur sukoon lete ho. Biggest contentment, apni validation, and you start to become complete within yourself.hazrat ali ka quote bai apak well wosher or friend pko private men advise or piblicly support karega. or uske hote hue usko presence men kisi ki himmat ni hogi apko kuch kehne ki .thats why i said k saboor sy cordaila courteous .friendly bond but father and brother sy zyada bond bano. apki safe and protective feeling jo aurat ko must cahhaiye hoti hai na pori hu tu bahir sitautiosnhips or loneliness ki desperate upapr sy daydreaming kar k fanatsy and idea of realtionship men soh us insan kr relation ko itna pedestal py ly ja k itna invest krlieti hai k jitna tu usne woh position earn ni ki hoti or phir they can see obsession am dobsession kills all relationships. jb when a man feel iski apni koi life ni mere ilawa.or sadq de k dekhny k yeh insan acha hai k ni dive deep into it & islam ki knolwedge ki kami sy thoday larhty hai. and knowledge easily avialable hony k bawujood na skills develop krna phir dosro ko kuch na bolo tu kabhi valued or peace ni mily ga . tu ap lonleiness. daydreaming romance ko center of life or imstaed of helaing uselfa nd buold your own garden which by eneriching your inner world AND FEMINITY SOFT EXPRESSION ,WOMEN CAN CONQUER THE WORLD WITH THEIR FEMINITY OR MARD SAY HAR BAAT MANWA SAKTI AND FEMINITY MEN BOHIT SKILLS AND CALCULATIVE STREET SMART + BOOKS SMART. BAHIR SY SIRF SOFT EXTERIOR HOTA HAI. Q K U PUT OFF KIIS K MOODY EXPRESSION. HIGH PITCH VOICE NAGGING AND BADTAMEZI DISRESPECTFUL WHEN ANGER AND JSUT APRECAITE AND GRATEFUOA ND BE LIKE LIL GIRL US SY SATU MANLY KAM KARWAO AND BE JOYFULA ND APRECAITE LIKE A GIRL OR CHAHTB1BWEK TAK NA KARY LEKIN WOHI KARY. NAG MAT KARO WAIT. AND INFLUENCING IN A WAY LIKE PLANTING A SEED ,COMMUNICATE ALWAYS UNCOMFORTABEK B JEALOUSY TU ANY NI DENI HE SHOULD FEEL U ARE EXCLUSIVE. AREEB APNY BHAI SY B JEALIUS HOTA HAI WHEN IQRA GIVE HIM LOL ATTENTION IQRA MAKE SURE K OLATONIC AND WESE HI BOND AMD EXPRESION JESE FEMALE K STAH AND AREEB K FRNDS K SATH NOW HE TRUST HER TU KHUD LE JATA HAI. AND SHE DONT ACT ATTENTION SEEKER WITH THEM ,and yeh sab skills ith discipline, consistent repettion sy pehky habit phir apka perosnloaty ka part bnti jese negative though self talk and naytting hum repeat kar rhy hen tu break the loop and introdusce these repeat them apna feed comtent enviroment aesi chezo sy bhar lo like sensory input ap bohot quickly bn jao gy and sari zindagi faida. amd u become complete. and u feel most content. and apny feed ko serch karo not scroll and tap apke haty men control same like psychologist said control your brain and train it like puppet or it will drive u crazy with all thoights and what u consume or ghum na khao literally khobsorti aurat ki cheenta hai and ALLAH NY KITNI BAR BOLA HAI. ARTIFICAIL SUGAR AND STRESS NO1 AGING REASONS. .siliye be careful what u consume u become. and healing ap ek insan py dal dety ho or expect karty ho woh rajkumar aye ga

a b jaye. lack of discipliNE and inner healing na hony sy value ni hogi .so just grow and put back eneegy to yoir growth eveveything will fall into place and with riggt sequnce jo bataya. ALLAH THEN URSELF YOUR GROWTH AND AKHAIRAT KA PURPOSE AND EVEYTHING PART OF LIFE. LAW OF UNIVSMERSE B YEHI. tu jb aurat music bohot sunti hai it lowers frequency mood swings romance andntoxic love normalization k eityer not moving on or carving romance. tu single phase enjoy ni karty yeh tike hai growth and sath enjoy. shadi men zayda responsibility hai. mene faisla kiya k jb to susral or sjohar ko handle krny k tariqy na aye cahlakiyun ko handle tb tak ni. and romance ko hawa cente rof life bnaya hua hai. apni pattern raeding rational and knowledge k sath bnday ko observe krny k bajaye desperately connection seek krti hai. and lack of social muscle amd logo sy na milny ki wajh sy. tu group of frnds amd also gym ,pottery and ocytocin sport activity frnd k liye alag.

Ye sequence hota hai: Allah first, then your growth, and everything else should be part of life. Aur us saare part of life mein, aap phir is sequence ke hisaab se rationally, objectively, values, integrity aur all the skills and areas of life ko dhyan mein rakh kar decisions lete ho. Na toh job ko centre of the universe bana kar desperate ho ke uske liye kuch bhi karoge. Aap phir dekhte ho mere liye peace kahan hai, mere liye faida kis mein hai, in a strategic and calculative way. Emotions are indicators. Rationally, objectively, aap unhein sahi tareeqe se direct karte ho. Neuroscience, neuroplasticity and Islam.

And be like Khirad from Humsafar. Woh bilkul best tareeqa hota hai. Abhi ke liye leave it. Koi romantic songs nahi. Songs should either be about yourself or trendy ones jo algorithm aapko neutral content ki taraf push karein. Iske ilawa woh songs sunne ki zaroorat nahi hai. Instagram par trending list mil jayegi.

conflict resolution. Ye cheezein main isliye bata rahi hoon ke jab situations wahan tak pohnchein, tab aapne unhein aise handle karna hai. Isse pehle, in cheezon ko Allah par chhor kar and put back enrgy to urself ,jb bpatedhani ho foran grow krny learn knolwedeg. gym sports oxytocin activities. jb ap apny apko khush ni rakh sakty how can u expect from other happiness isa choice lekin right methods sy. social community gathering healthy way men shighal k liye log. group bna lo roz ghar men. healing or duebmen ro k allah sy baat and gain knwlledge than rationally objectively integrity startegic calculative decsisons. and uske liye rone k bad read neuroscienece ,and islam. hazrat ali .psychology emotion understanding. about that topic and hazrat ali ki ek ek baat theek hai mujhy decsiosn making skills unse hi string hui and now i read all these and expeeience and reserach sb unky hisab sy hai iskiye door of knowledge kehty hen so . put energy back to urself . apne aap ko behtar se behtar banaya tha. cahrming expression practice recird repeat in private bhol jao tu review and consiously do it again while watching shows and all keep the smile and consiouslsy remind urself k chupke sy bahar ajaye k time jese voice men baat and expresion and smile. and giggle sound .or phir scene ko rewind and repeat the giggle. and record urself with those expression whioe reading one page of english page. is sy fluency b behtar hogi english ki or expression b pakky or personalkty ka part bny gy. repeation sy .like vinh GIANG SAID. CONFIDENCE COACH ,LIKE APKA PANIC ATTCH SCENE EXPRESSION ACHY THY BUT CONSTRUCTIVELY AWAZ MUTE KR K DEKHTI Q K BOHOT OVERSSTIMULATING AND KANO PAR MUSHKIL HOTA MNE APNI 3RD NIECE KI AWAZ SUN NY K LIYE CALL KRTI HU ALAG SY WESE SB KO EQUALLY TRAET BUT CHUPKE SY LIKE HER MORE USKI IT I PYARI AWAZ AND HAR WAQT SMILE OR SMILE JO PYARI HAI USPE SUIT KRTI HAI WOH WALI LITERALLY SMILE KI CLASSES HOTI K JO AP PY SUIT KARY AND APKI CHUPKE SAY BAHAR AJAYE AND ORANGREZA SMILE ,AND CHAMMI VOICE AND CHUPKE SY BAHAR AJAYE WALI BEST HAI. TU US K BOLNY L TARIQY OR EXPRESSION SY BASICALLY SOFT FEMININE EXTERIOR LOG DOSRO K MUQABLY MEN USKI GHLTI OR DANT KAM PARHTI Q K ADOARABLE OR LIKEABLE AURA. AND COMFORATBLE EXPRESSION HOTY. SOCIAL SKILLS B BOhOT HAI. USKA SOCIAL MUSCLE BUILD KIYA HAI.TU PEOPLE PERSON BUT USKI BOUNDARIES BOHIT HY SO IT SHOWS K CAHNNELING REAL FEMINITY STARNGERS SY BAAT. GO SOLO TRAVELING SAFE PLACE TO BE SILLY GOOFY AND SHORT CONVERSATION AESE AP COMFORATBLY LOGO K SAMNY EXPRES KRNY KI ADAT WHEN U COMMUNIACTE AnD ALSO ANALYSE K KONSI HARKAT ACHI THI OR KONSI DISCARD OR PHIR SAB NY APNY GHAR STARNGERS K SATH YEH FAIDA HOTA HAI. ZINDAGI KITNI HASEEN TIME NA DKHEL KHEL MEN K TIME SO CHAEMING. MEOTIONALLY FEELING SAFE SECURE NERVOUS SYSTEM TU AP KA BEST VERSION ATA HAI. TU CHOOSE PARTNER LIKE THIS .BUS NAGING KI ADAT KHATAM ITS IRRITATING AMND UNLIKEABLE BNATI HAI. ACHY SOFT TARIQY SY BAAT KR SAKTY HAI CALM REGULATED NETVOUS SYSTEM TEHRAO. TU AP MOODY NI HOTY. OR WOH CHEZE JO OVER EMOTIONAL KRTI KHATAM KARO. MUSIC. DRAMAS REALITY SHOWS AND SEMSORY INPUT CONTROL. WHAT U GIVE NERGY APKA WOH STATE BNTA HAI. AP PODCAST JAY SHETTYA ND RAK SHAMANI KI DEKHO. NEUTOPLASTICITY ISLMA ,EXPRESSIOM ELEGANCE ,INTERPERSOANL SKILLS ,COMMINCATION SOFT SKILLS IMFLEUNCING PERSUADING ,CHANNELING FEMININE.ENERRGY , BOUNDARIES. nonverbal communication ,JOYFUL. conflic skills ,spontaneity ,witty , . L

And sadqa de diya karo. Jab bhi kisi se attach hone lago aur pyaar hone lage, sadqa de do aur ye intention kar lo: “Agar ye mere liye achha hai toh theek hai, aur agar achha nahi hai toh afiyat ke saath tal jaaye. Mere liye aankhon ki thandak bane, mujhe trauma waghera na de, aur Allah Ta'ala mere skills aur self-worth ko maintain karne ki taufeeq dein, taake mujhe apni value karwani aaye.”

Aapki inner world jitni zyada grow karti rehti hai, discipline aata rehta hai, knowledge increase hoti hai, neuroplasticity, Islam aur in sab cheezon ki understanding increase hoti rehti hai, aap apne charms, soft exterior, femininity, expressions, reactions, calm regulation, calm nervous system, somatic exercises, skincare, gym, lymphatic drainage aur namaz par bhi kaam karte rehte ho.

Namaz, namaz. Fauran parh liya karo. Literally, jitni jaldi azaan ke baad namaz parhte ho, utni jaldi aapko kamyabi milti hai. Delay namaz matlab delay kamyabi.

Surah Waqiah partner ke liye hoti hai. Rizq bhi Allah Ta'ala Surah Waqiah se dete hain. Aap bhi kabhi bhooke nahi soenge, bohot zyada rizq ke liye. Surah Rahman for healing, Surah Baqarah for nazar, jadoo aur bandish. Subah uth kar Surah Baqarah lagao, aur Surah Rahman, Surah Waqiah aur Surah Mulk ko apni daily recitation ka part bana lo. Ye sab rizq ka part hain, be it partner, relationships, money, wealth or children.

Jitna aapki inner world grow karti hai, us hisaab se aap apne standards aur choices ko improve karte ho. Aap usi level par cheezein attract karne lagte ho. Toh abhi aap itne lonely ho, aapne apna social circle bhi nahi banaya hua, aur aap apne upar work nahi karte, inner world grow nahi karte, toh aap temporary solution dhoondte ho ke koi aa jaaye aur mujhe ye saari cheezein de de.

Phir aap kisi ke bare minimum ko bhi aise treat karte ho jaise ye bohot achha hai, aur uske liye desperate ho jaate ho. But even if they're giving you the bare minimum, they may still fail to value you or treat you right. Aap overgiver ban jaate ho, aur don't train a man to be a man. Because you are not channelling your feminine energy and skills: street-smart, book-smart, soft exterior, soft charm, expressions, but firm boundaries and an inner mindset built on integrity, values, rational thinking, objectivity, conflict resolution skills and interpersonal skills. Apni private baatein bhi sabko nahi batani. And many more cheezein jo maine pehle batai hain.

Phir bare-minimum wala banda bhi aapko bura treat karke chala jaata hai. Lekin jab aap apni inner world ko rich aur grow karte ho, you open yourself up to the possibility of finding someone who treats you exceptionally well, someone who gives you the queen treatment.

Toh bas apni energy wapas khud par lagao. Jitna apne aap ko grow karoge, jitni aapki inner world rich hogi, mindset improve hoga aur bahar se bhi dressing sense aur looks waghera par kaam karoge, utna apna confidence aur overall presentation improve kar sakte ho.

Because beauty is a privilege, and that's a fact. Jitna hum is cheez se run karne ki koshish karein, yes, self-soothing baatein hoti hain, but practically it's a thing. Hum bhi pyare bachon ko dekh kar unse pyaar karte hain, aur humein bhi un logon ki awaaz sunne ka dil karta hai jinki voice soft ho.

Toh apne baare mein emotionally hone ke bajaye, take it as data, not a self-esteem attack. Ye skills hain jo develop ho sakti hain through repetition, practice and consistency. Phir woh habit banti hain, then personality.

Toh right partner ke liye ro mat, bare minimum ya thori si attention par desperate mat ho. Jab apne aap ko grow karoge, you give yourself a better chance of finding a genuinely good partner who meets your standards. Toh take a chill pill.