Women lose their charm when they lose their exclusivity. When an actor is already doing physically intimate scenes and all, that is one aspect. But when you openly ship yourself with a celebrity even after a project has ended, you're also creating emotional involvement. So it's not just physical intimacy anymore; it's emotional as well. It blurs the line of what is even left as exclusive between you and your partner.

You can observe this in dating shows and relationships in general. Recently, we've seen so many breakups in Korea and other countries as well.

I can clearly say that when a man feels that a woman isn't exclusive in the way she gives her attention and emotional energy, it can affect how he perceives the relationship.

You can absolutely interact with others in a platonic way, like Iqra Kanwal from Sisterology does. You can clearly see that Areeb sometimes gets uncomfortable when she gets too involved or has too much fun interacting with the opposite gender. And she is quite observant of that. She reads his expressions and understands her boundaries.

It's about knowing your boundaries and maintaining your integrity. Ke kahan tak you need to go. She appreciates his support, but you can also clearly see that she supports others in a human, platonic way. There's no body-language shyness, awkwardness or unnecessary discomfort. She can socialise, joke around and do jugatbazi as well.

That type of platonic bond is absolutely fine, especially when you're an extrovert and enjoy socialising. But even extroverts need to be careful because sometimes they unintentionally blur the line by becoming too physically involved, seeking too much validation or giving someone special attention. Excessive praise, extra affection and unnecessary emotional validation can create a different dynamic altogether.

You need to be mindful of that because log idhar udhar chale jayenge, and you might end up compromising the relationship that should matter the most.

I'm not saying you should put your relationship on a pedestal or expect your partner to be completely obedient to you. Islam also talks about balance, rights and responsibilities within marriage. You cannot expect your wife to be completely submissive or obedient in every aspect. I'm not advocating that either. But there needs to be a balance within the boundaries of integrity, morality and mutual respect.

Already, an acting job involving physical intimacy requires a lot of understanding and a very big heart from a partner. Your partner needs to be comfortable with the fact that you're sharing that aspect of your profession with someone else. It takes a lot of emotional maturity from both sides.

Men and women can also experience emotional intimacy, jealousy and attachment differently. A man might initially feel jealous or territorial because he wants to feel that you're exclusively his. He might even enjoy the feeling of being wanted and pursued. But once the relationship develops, the question becomes whether he genuinely feels that exclusivity and emotional security.

I'm not saying every man thinks this way, but some men can lose their sense of exclusivity when they feel that their partner gives the same kind of intimate attention to everyone.

Look at Zendaya and Tom, for example. Zendaya obviously does intimate scenes and all in Hollywood. But you can clearly see how she handles her PR and her gestures towards Tom as well. Tom also notices her off-screen interactions, the way she interacts with other men, hugs them and gives them attention.

So, no matter how liberal you are, if a man feels that you're emotionally giving another man special interest, attention and treatment, he can notice that. And some men genuinely don't feel comfortable with it.

When you reserve a certain level of emotional and romantic exclusivity for your partner, they can feel more appreciated and valued. But that doesn't mean you stop socialising or become socially withdrawn. You can still be warm, friendly, extroverted and platonic with everyone else.

For example, look at Esra and Zeynep. The way Zeynep described Rida, she kept saying that Rida is straightforward. Rida is often perceived as very tough, very straightforward and sometimes even badtameez.

But I would interpret it differently. It's not necessarily about being straightforward or rude; it's about maintaining boundaries with other men while still being a little more open, sweet and comfortable with the person you actually like.

Zeynep is quite smart. When Rida was being questioned about being tough and straightforward, Zeynep turned that question around and essentially highlighted that, yes, she's like that with others, but she cannot behave the same way with me. And he actually liked that distinction.

I'm not saying you need to be rude to other men. Not at all. Be polite, warm, friendly and platonic. But men can sense when your energy and attention towards them are different from the energy you reserve for your partner.

If you give exactly the same romantic energy, attention and special treatment to every man, including your partner, it can blur the line of exclusivity. It can give a playgirl-type vibe, especially when you're looking at another man in the same way you look at your partner, giving him the same expressions, eye contact and intimate attention.

Even in marriage, I think you need to understand the balance between attraction, intimacy and desire. You don't need to constantly evoke excessive lust or make every interaction revolve around physical attraction. Over time, if everything becomes too normalised or excessively driven by lust, the relationship can start losing other dimensions of emotional connection. You want attraction, but you also want respect, friendship, companionship and emotional intimacy.

So forget initial dating; even during the getting-to-know-each-other phase, you need to be mindful of these things.

Men can become very performative when their lust is strongly provoked. And that's where things can become difficult for you. Aapko samajh nahi aata ke iski attention aur effort genuine hai, ya sirf lust ki wajah se performative behaviour hai? Is he actually that person, or is he behaving that way because he's physically attracted to you?

That's why I believe you need to observe a man's character beyond his attraction towards you. Observe his consistency, integrity, respect, emotional maturity and how he behaves when physical attraction isn't the centre of attention.

Because ultimately, you want someone who values you as a whole person, not just someone who is temporarily fascinated by you.