The fact is, Shahveer Jafri isn't as senior compared to you as Dhanani is, but look at the way he honoured her and said such nice things about her. As a junior, you need to be respectful towards a senior. But Danyal has such a superiority complex. The way he didn't even acknowledge the edits, neither Sarbiya nor on his stories. He was always about Surbhi Khan. Then why did you choose the project? He did the same thing with the photoshoot. Privately acting sweet, but publicly gaslighting you.

First of all, it's not that you guys don't have romantic obsessions and things like that. You're tolerating it. I'll tell you why you're tolerating it. First of all, you have a fickle heart, unclear boundaries and priorities, and low self-worth. You seek pleasure, temporary pleasure, to escape your loneliness and enjoy the attention. And this is cheap attention.

Go have fun, just for the sake of it, time guzarna on set. You can be friends with anyone, but keep it platonic. Don't chup-chupke dekhna. Don't go beyond what's required and become unnecessarily intimate while doing scenes. Don't overdo things beyond what's written in the script. There should be boundaries. And even if intimacy is written into a scene, you need to correct it and perform it more softly. In close-proximity scenes, you should actually be more careful not to look at their lips because it looks very vulgar.

That's why you keep tolerating it. Because otherwise, if you had set boundaries when he was behaving unprofessionally throughout, you wouldn't have posted so many stories about him. You didn't even post your solo edits on your own profile. You were constantly shipping yourself.

If you're feeling lonely, there's a way to understand that this is your emotion. Emotions are indicators and sensors. You remain self-loyal through rationality, objectivity, integrity, values, neuroscience, neuroplasticity, Islam, the psychology of relationships, interpersonal skills, conversation skills, communication skills, social skills, strategic thinking, being calculative, street smarts, book smarts, tact, charisma, wit, and public-speaking skills.

All these skills combined help you handle your emotions in a healthy way. If you want dopamine, there's a healthy way to get it. Cheap dopamine—haan, beta, yeh galat baat hai. Sone jao, chalo.Because, you know, Shaitan's agendas and social media. As a rational believer, you need to understand that it's all social media. It provides a high level of pleasure and dopamine, which can actually be unhealthy for the brain. How? When we watch music, dramas, or intense scenes, our dopamine processing becomes so high, almost like diabetes. When we get this unhealthy level of dopamine, our brain releases hormones to bring it down. This can lead to depression and anxiety. That's why everyone is depressed and anxious.

And it's also because you're living in the same pattern and repeating the same story: that I'm broken, I have a difficult relationship with my mother, I'm lonely. This has become your self-identity. This has become your reality. If you're feeling lonely, go out, make friends, and socialise.

And how do you do that? Apni healing ke liye Allah ke paas jao. Jab bhi aapko rona hai, dua ke saath apne saare emotions express karo. You should cry to Allah. This is the right direction for your energy.

Because when we keep going to people with our emotions, it can actually make us more attached to that topic and person. Our neural pathways become stronger through repetition. Jab Allah ke paas us energy ko le kar jaate ho, because everything is energy, you can then rationally and objectively, through metacognition, realise how your emotions developed. Study your emotions, evaluate them, and then make decisions based on what you need to do. Use neuroscience, neuropsychology, relationship psychology, and interpersonal skills to make those decisions rationally and objectively.

Because that's called self-loyalty: directing your emotions, knowing what's best for you, and acting accordingly, rather than indulging in and diving into your raw emotions.

A feminine woman is calculative and strategic. She has a strong mindset and all those skills, but her exterior is very soft. The way she speaks is gentle. She's witty and knows how to give comebacks, but she speaks softly, smiles, and uses her expressions wisely. Because expressions are part of controlling your narrative. You need to have control over what your expressions communicate.

That's why, no matter what happens to someone or what someone says to them, if they maintain softness in their expressions, they often come across as innocent. It's a reality that we judge people by their outward expressions. If someone cries in a soft, endearing way, we tend to sympathise with them more.

My third niece gets more love and respect because she has people skills. Her expressions are very soft. She has boundaries, but she's also feminine and gentle in her expressions. The way she talks is very cute, and she always speaks slowly and softly. Even in intense scenes, you should try to make your expressions softer and more feminine. It's easier on the eyes and looks prettier.

Her panic attacks actually make me want to mute the scenes because they're overwhelming, even though I otherwise like her expressions. I know this may seem harsh, but instead of being indirect, I'm telling you directly so you understand. Don't take it as an attack on your self-esteem. Everything is data.

You used to have a softer, more feminine voice in Chupke Chupke, Se Bahar Aaja, and all your older dramas. But now I can clearly see a difference. Either you have hypothyroidism or a hormonal imbalance, 1000%, because you don't sleep at night. When we sleep at night, our body regulates hormones and carries out essential restorative processes. No skincare product or anything else is as beneficial as a good night's sleep. Night sleep is beauty sleep, and samajhdaaron ne kaha hai, aur sahi kaha hai. You can age faster when you consistently don't get enough sleep, and chronic sleep deprivation can affect your health.

I can also clearly see poor posture and a tendency to make people, situations, and jobs the centre of your universe. Don't get overly attached to people.

If you're feeling lonely, think about oxytocin, the love hormone. How do you get that? Through halal connections. Go hug your father, hug your brother, and build a bond with them. Initially, it might feel a little uncomfortable, but aista aista, it will be worth it.

Isse yeh hoga ke aap bahir situationships mein lower-level connections ko desperately seek nahi karoge. Situationships can compromise a woman's standards and self-respect. Aap khaam khaa apni energy drain karte ho. Daydreaming, emotional overload, and ghar pe aake daydream karna are not healthy habits when they become excessive. They can make you overly emotional and dysregulated. Jo cheez aapko overemotional aur imbalanced karti hai, khaam khaa uske baare mein ghar aake sochna, khayalat banana, aur apni energy dena, ya situationships mein parhna, it just makes your life more difficult. You won't get the value you deserve if you keep investing in people who don't reciprocate.

Be a high-value woman, because when the right person comes along, they should be able to recognise your worth. When a man feels that a woman reserves her romantic and intimate energy for him, he may value that exclusivity more.

And being a high-value woman also means understanding boundaries around physical intimacy. When you keep looking at someone's lips, even your husband, it can evoke more lust. If someone becomes accustomed to a certain level of stimulation, they may seek more of it over time. Even with partners, boundaries matter. And you're doing this with strangers outside your relationship.

To your life partner, if you keep investing your energy in situationships, flirting with people, engaging in questionable behaviour, and chupke chupke dekhna, your partner may end up doing the same behind your back.

Women should build closer bonds with their fathers and brothers because every woman needs to feel safe and secure. When they have that sense of security, they may be less likely to seek unhealthy attention elsewhere and can feel more comfortable expressing their femininity.

Aur shuru se hi apne bhaiyon ke saath apna bond banana aana chahiye. Khud initiative lena aana chahiye, because usually, they don't necessarily know how to connect and bond emotionally.