I can clearly see your pattern. I can clearly see it.And the fact that there are so many likes and videos about the Chhami character and her solo scenes, but you didn't post about any of them and keep posting about the ones featuring scens with him. and thats called selff abandonment lack of dignity ,integrity ,values .self respect ,low self worth, shows that your focus in life is romance. male validation. And that comes from not bonding with your brother and father. The lack of safety and protectiveness is what some women seek outside from other men.

So ghar pe thori apni ego khatam karke apni family se bond aur connection bana lo. Woh better rehta hai. You will be sorted in life.

Yes, you have emotions, but emotions ko sahi direction deni chahiye. That's how you grow—with values, integrity, neuroscience, neuroplasticity, Islam, and rationality. There are so many posts you shared featuring scens wher its with ahd, or where you're actually usko suna rahi ho, Ahd ko suna rahi ho.Girl, if you haven't moved on from AHD, then it's better to be single. Because if you haven't healed yourself, ask yourself why you're not healed enough. It's because you keep telling yourself the same story: trauma, trauma, trauma. Trauma has a limited time frame. What you repeat constantly becomes your story.self concept self identity.

You didn't have sensory input control, as simple as that. Your feed is filled with poetry and music, and you stay stuck on it. You will always stay stuck on it.

Shah Rukh and Salman have now patched things up, but they maintain respectful boundaries. Jab bhi milte hain, achhe se milte hain, respectfully milte hain, but they don't behave like besties. Because this is the foolish thing you can do. They say, with respect, that they will always support each other in public, but privately, they don't act like chhatti-patti friends. This is the stupidest thing you can do, because that way, you maintain respect forever and can always be there for each other when things go wrong. It's like a friendship bond: of course, things waise nahi ho sakti, but we will always be respectful towards each other and always say nice things about each other in public. That's the thing. This is the thing.

So, regarding Ahad, girl, your Instagram mobile feed is also your environment. And how do you control it? Two hours, four hours, six hours. Is tarah, aahista-aahista bolo, "Maine nahi dekhna. Meri thori si curiosity mera poora din ka mood kharab kar degi. And I love myself. I cannot see myself suffer like that." This is your self-loyalty, and you will become so stable, so sorted, and life will be good.

Aur zindagi mein aise log hi kamyab hote hain: socialize, socialize, socialize, not just with one person, but with several people: gym friends, yoga friends, Pilates friends, sports friends, work friends, Insta friends. You need to socialize a lot, a lot, a lot. You will learn so much. You will learn how to handle situations, and yeh aapki acting mein bhi kaam karega. And you will also become better at socializing, giving back, and giving witty replies.

The fact is, after so many years, the guy who literally cheated on you, you should have reached a point where taking his name is beneath you. And you're still posting about that particular attitude, actually creating a narrative that you're still missing him.

You still, aapko tabhi baar-baar dukh lagta hai na, to sitamgar? You're revisiting it. You literally posted about Aangan, even though you knew Aangan was coming, but you also posted the Sarbiya story flashback about how, when you did that, you remembered your first husband. Then Aangan, and now you're posting about things that all seem to match up with each other.

If you haven't gotten over him, why do you care what he's doing in his life? Why is he even in your feed? Why are you even stalking what he's doing? I don't care about yeh to karta hai, woh to karta hai. What are you doing? You should be loyal to your own feelings. Your paths are separate. No matter woh kiske saath kya kar raha hai, it doesn't matter. I don't care what he said, even if it's about you. First love, then he was actually guilt-tripping you. That's a classic playboy game. They make a woman feel guilty so she stays attached to them while they have fun on their own.

Then you shouldn't. Shammi is not innocent. Innocent sirf bachche hote hain. Being dumb is a choice. Then don't tell people to always do things for you when you're not even loyal to yourself.

You're literally creating a narrative, and people who understand pattern reading, like I do, can clearly see your intentions. Ab Shammi ke through Ahad ko suna rahe ho. And that's because you're so self-abandoning. I've already read that pattern about you. You're so self-abandoning and undisciplined in your life, spending the whole day on your mobile looking at things instead of grooming yourself, growing, and learning from the things around you.

And now, Zara, move on. If your Zara move is connected with Hamza because he's connected to that family, then I will understand. And even then, things will only remain healthy if you maintain a cordial, respectful bond with each other, with courtesy and a fast-wala bond. Jab milo, ek doosre se achhe se milo. Have a short conversation: achha, kya chal raha hai? Kaam kaisa chal raha hai? Apne baby ki halat kaisi hai? Mama ki tabiyat theek hai? That type of short conversation. Aajkal mausam kaisa hai? Or those conversations where the other person doesn't get to know too much about you. You don't give too much of yourself. Bas.

Aise hi hoga. That person will understand, and they won't repeat the same mistake. You get valued when you teach people how to value you. You become unforgettable through these methods.

Agar aapne bahut over-friendly hone ki koshish ki, bahut achha banne ki koshish ki, that person, through human psychology, may stop respecting you. And again, through conversation, through interactions, if a person is jealous of you, the more you try to be interactive with them, the more they may feel they have power over you in the dynamic. They will continue to resent you, and baaton baaton mein, mazaak mazaak mein, they will mock and degrade you, and things will always end up the same way.

But har jagah achha banna zaroori nahi hai. You have to be willing to disappoint people. Disappointment is healthy when it comes with boundaries. Boundaries mean aap woh karo jo aapke liye behtar hai.

But yes, be cordial and courteous, jaise Humayun sahib hain: respectful, appreciative, with a soft exterior. But have a firm, steel mindset and strong standards. You get in life what your standards reflect and what you consistently and repeatedly do in private.

Everything is a habit, and a habit is what you repeat. So if you never change, then all those statements about growth are just ego statements. If you're not growing, building resilience, and changing, you're actually stuck in an unhealthy, jahil mindset. The human mind is built to adapt and grow.

A wise person doosron ki zindagiyon aur knowledge se seekhta hai. A fool is the one who learns only after baar-baar thokrein khana. And in the end, they lose their charm, their spark, their happiness, and eventually themselves.

Allah Ta'ala ne humein apne dil ki hifazat karna sikhaya hai. Gham na khao; it can affect everything. Aur jab aap depression ki wajah se namaz aur ibaadat karne ke qabil bhi nahi rehte, then you risk losing so much in both this life and the Hereafter.