A man standing in front of you, openly lusting over you, closing eyes ,hanfna ,cheapest thing for a women. and you allowing that behaviour and made that person so comfortable of thinking u as source of lust and entertainment and making it visible is cheapness and reflects a lack of self-worth. Men might enjoy that feeling in the moment, but they also categorize women based on how they carry themselves.

He was doing the same thing with Anam Hussain as well. Remember that scene when Anam Hussain confronted Rabia Noor Bhabi, saying that she didn't need to be clingy with BB Jaan and Sarbuland? He came in and said, "No, I said it to Rabia." But look at the way he was looking at Anam: his eyes moving from her eyes to her lips and then her bust, scanning her, almost wanting rabiya to leave quickly. i studied body language and all. He was also following her on insta, but eventually unfollowed her because she didn't follow him back. This is the kind of lust-driven behaviour I'm talking about.

You will find hundreds of attractive people and hundreds of charming personalities in this world. That's a fact. Men and women can develop attraction even when they aren't particularly attracted to someone initially, simply because they share the same environment and spend time around each other.

A man who has such little self-control over his sexual desires, openly and proudly identifies himself as horny, and has friends who reinforce that behaviour, is showing you something about his mentality. and shen he is attafted to others man will naturally feel cold towards to their lartner and lusty man will always find another person to lust over. He himself said that even during Ramadan, he couldn't control his lust, kissing and all. I can't even call him a playboy. Look at the way he keeps seeing so many women and making comments about whom he should marry. Of course, he wasn't literally asking whom he should marry. We all understand the context. He also said that he always carries a condom in his pocket, کہ کہیں موقع مل جائے. That alone tells you something about his mentality. Of course, the conversation was about sex, kissing and all that.

A man having self-control and discipline is what makes him a man. And the fact is, men generally experience stronger sexual urges, and women openly displaying their bodies can also be a trigger. We cannot deny biology. Both genders experience hormonal responses. Even women experience these feelings; sometimes we're on our periods, we see something on social media, and our bodies respond. We can feel aroused and physically turned on. So imagine someone who experiences these urges frequently. These are human feelings, and both genders have a responsibility to understand and regulate their biology.

That's precisely why Islam and Allah emphasize modesty for both men and women. Both have a responsibility to take care of their gaze, behaviour and desires. These feelings are not wrong in themselves; they are meant to be expressed and fulfilled within the boundaries of a committed relationship with your partner.

But when a man keeps openly talking about these feelings, proudly claiming that he's horny and repeatedly discussing his lack of control, understand the pattern. When someone keeps verbalizing and reinforcing these thoughts, it can reflect an established mindset and behavioural pattern. These neural pathways and habits don't suddenly disappear just because a woman enters his life or he gets a partner. A relationship alone doesn't rewire someone's mindset. He has to make that decision himself. He has to recognize the pattern, take responsibility and actively work on changing it. No woman needs to become his mother, therapist or rehabilitation centre. He has to take that step for himself, and very few people genuinely do unless they have the self-awareness and willingness to change.

So if you encounter a man who already displays this kind of lust-driven behaviour, take it as a sign. Allah is showing you a pattern through his actions. You two are not on the same frequency; your values and standards are not aligned. When someone repeatedly disappoints you through their behaviour, pay attention. It is a sign that you may not be compatible.

You don't have to destroy yourself just to keep the peace. I'm not saying you should cut everyone off or become hostile. Just maintain your distance, understand what you're observing and emotionally detach. You can be cordial without giving someone access to you.

When someone's behaviour is so established that they repeatedly express and reinforce it themselves, don't dismiss it. When something is being shown to you through actions, believe it. Don't get carried away by someone's charm, potential or temporary attention. Don't start daydreaming and fantasizing about what you could be together, what your relationship might look like or what kind of partner they could become. Look at who they are right now.

Even if it's someone you've recently broken up with, consider that separation a blessing. You deserve someone whose values, discipline and intentions align with yours.

And even after marriage, give your relationship at least two, three or four years to build a genuinely strong bond. Invest in each other, build companionship, trust and emotional intimacy. Don't confuse popularity, fame or public attention with someone's actual worth or character.

Popularity and fame are relatively easy to create. Aap ki izzat aur drama instantly viral ho sakta hai. Everything is driven by algorithms. You invest a little money in PR, you already have talent, you work on your aesthetics and appearance, improve your expressions, and voila! You can become popular.

But popularity is not character. Attention is not loyalty. Attraction is not discipline. And charm is not compatibility.

Choose patterns over potential, character over charm, and self-control over temporary attraction.